Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Psalm 127:1

There’s no pain like family pain. “Unless the LORD builds the house,” the house will be built in vain and filled with pain.

Family life is delightful and dynamic if prioritized, but difficult and draining if neglected. If life is not working at home, it’s not working period—no matter how “successful” we may be in other places. And if our families are the biggest target of pain in our hearts, our children are the bull’s-eye.

This is true today, and it was true in Bible times. Take David and his rebellious son, Absalom, whose life unfolds like a sordid soap opera. Absalom murdered his half-brother as retribution for raping his sister, Tamar. Estranged from his father, Absalom led a coup, turning David’s most trusted advisors against him and chasing him from the throne and out of Jerusalem.


David waited in exile while the shattered remains of his army were out fighting his own son. He didn’t care about the battle, the victory, or his throne. What the king desperately wanted to know was whether Absalom was safe—the very son trying to overthrow him, the son who would kill him if he had a chance!

When David learned Absalom was dead, he cried, “O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! Would I had died instead of you, O Absalom, my son, my son” (2 Samuel [18:33])! The enemy was his own flesh and blood. Those we love most are also those to whom we are most vulnerable.

The Bible makes no effort to sanitize the pain families can experience. In fact, Scripture is rife with examples of dysfunction: the family of Noah, the man of faith; of Eli, the Lord’s priest; of Hosea, God’s chosen prophet. The stories parallel our own lives and confirm there is no pain like family pain. Even Christian homes are crippled by divorce, absent parents, abuse, and financial distress.

Written by James MacDonald
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